Ladies do not embarrass your man in bed

So this is what happened.  Looks like Friday night wife wanted to make love but I did not get the hint and went to sleep.  She teased me in the morning that she tried to hint to be me but I did not respond, and I told her that I was confused because she was also popping Tums complaining of bloating.  As the morning went on, while we were cleaning the house, at one point we were talking about another couple who seem to have a somewhat unorthodox relationship and conversation turned to sex.  Then, right out of the blue, she suggested that we make love, and I immediately agreed and jumped into bed.  At that point, she seemed to have changed her mind and I should have got the hint, but guys are bad at that.  Within a minute, we were doing foreplay, but less than a minute had passed, and I was already starting to get a normal erection, that she complained that I was not responding.  Mind you, she knows what has been going on and has generally been very supportive but somehow she said it in a tone as if she expects me to have an erection on demand within seconds.  Now, despite getting most of my libido back and my ED almost a non issue, I am still slightly nervous every time we make love because it is like driving an old car, you are not 100% sure that it will start as easily as a new car.  As I tried to absorb her critical and taunting remark, I lost all desire to make love and the erection disappeared.  Eventually, we did not make love and it sort of spoiled the day, but before that, I told her a few things and I am hoping that women who are married to middle aged men with low-T or erectile dysfunction issues will know.



Image of wife in pink polka dot bra and panty making love to cute husband in bed

Things not to do and say by women while making love to older men
  1. Never criticize a man or his assets (that includes his whole body, so you do not want to criticize that he has gained weight) or his performance before and during lovemaking.  This is much more true as men get older, but in all honesty, it is true if you are teenage couple.  If you want to make things better or try new positions or if something is not working out, the time to discuss this is much later.  It is a discussion you should have in the same manner you will talk about personal finances or planning a trip.  Just sit down and talk about it.  While some things can be changed/improved, others come with a guy so either change your man or accept it.  In other words, if you think your man is smaller down there, NEVER mention it.  If you don't like this, move on.
  2. A man is not a machine, at any age, but definitely not after 40 or so.  Even a machine is not 100% reliable.  So do not expect that a man can produce a rock solid erection 100% of the time just because you want it.  There are times that we do not want it, do not feel like it, might not be feeling too well (there are times that I might just be tired or have a slight headache, not enough for me to take a pill or even mention it to anyone but I might not want to do something fun and am just looking to get some rest), or the body may simply not respond.
  3. For a man being able to produce an erection and make love is all in his head.  It is wrong to think that it is in his organ.  Little Johnny down there cannot respond if he does not feel it in his brain.  So by criticizing a man just around the time that he is trying to get into the mood, you are attacking his self esteem and not helping him.
  4. The great thing about being a woman is that since there are no visible signs of arousal and there is nothing to indicate whether a woman desires sex or not, she can have it almost any time.  Yes, I know that it is a lot of pleasure when she really wants it and can even be painful when she does not, a man may not even know it.  On the other hand, for a man, his erection is not only such a visible sign of his arousal, without it he cannot make love, and an erection is such an important symbol of his manhood that not being able to produce one is hugely embarrassing.  That is why even a teenager is just a bit nervous every single time.  So treat him kindly.

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